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    Wednesday, October 05, 2005


    I have by no means abandoned this blog. I have just been busy. Busy and a bit frustrated. Having a child with a disability can be overwhelming. Everything looks normal on the outside, but something is wrong and you just can't put your finger on it. I was in denial for many years. I struggled but then finally came to terms with it. Yes, eventually I came around. I sought help for my child and I got it. I was an advocate. It was hard but all of my hard work paid off. That was when he was little, now he is older and as he enters his teenage years, a whole new set of issues are arising. I'm dealing with them, but in the process where does this leave me the parent? Drained. I'll write more about this later.

    Information on CAPD and ADHD....

    Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD)

    Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)


    At 10/06/2005 12:21 PM, Blogger JamaicanQueen said...

    Girl you had me thinking Jordie came and got you cause you outted him. Welcome back and no worries we are still here waiting on you.


    At 10/06/2005 9:19 PM, Blogger Brotha Buck said...

    I had some of the same problems with my eldest daughter. But we didn't recognize the problem until it was too late...well, not really too late, but Jr. High. Then she refused to take the medication because she was too embarrassed to go to the nurses office everyday to take her pills. It is easier if you discover it early.


    At 10/07/2005 11:07 AM, Blogger NjDivaGirl said...

    You are funny. Jordie hasn't come back yet....LOL


    At 10/07/2005 11:08 AM, Blogger NjDivaGirl said...

    Brotha Buck,
    He's not on meds. But lately, I have been seriously thinking about it.


    At 10/10/2005 6:06 AM, Blogger miyna said...

    i never heard of CAPD, but it sure would explain a lot about my son. thing is, he does so well, in school and such, so i don't think he has the same problem, but the other? ADHD? yeah, that's him.

    no really. i know, if nothing else, what that's like. he's also very PTSD, so the both of them together makes things just that much more difficult.

    but stay strong, and keep fighting for him and not with him.


    At 10/11/2005 8:51 AM, Blogger princessdominique said...

    I always say take your time and do what you need to do--we'll all be here when you get back.


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    At 3/01/2006 7:04 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

    My auntie passed this article on to me. It has helped with my understanding. Hope it helps your readers

    adhd in infancy
    adhd in infancy

    Children with ADHD

    There is a perplexing state of affairs in today's society, there lies a strong correlation between the affluence of a society and the amount of disease that is present. There is also another correlation that troubles many a people and that is with affluence comes disease at an Earlier age.

    Working with children and the parents of these children I often get asked the question, 'Why are Children with ADHD on the increase?'

    The answer as you shall find is one that is both interesting and challenging.

    Children of today are really no more different from the children of yesterday in terms of genetic makeup. However, if you examine the issue more closely you will tend to find that many children today have been given labels. For example, 'Oh, those are children with ADHD' or 'Those are the children who can't sit still.' Or 'That is the kid that always gets into trouble.'

    These labels are not only destructive but also become a self fulfilling prophecy as it is repeated adnauseum.

    So as a 21st century parent or a parent with a child with ADHD or a parent with children with ADHD, what knowledge framework do you need to equip yourself with to ensure your children live out their true potential?

    Here is a quick reference list for thinking about ADHD
    � ADHD is a source of great frustration because it is misunderstood
    � ADHD medications are a great short term time buying device and should be avoided long term
    � The above point goes for any sort of drug consumption. Think about it for a minute. Unless you have a biochemical deficiency in your body like Type 1 diabetes where your body fails to produce enough insulin or any at all, why would you take an external drug? A body that is in balance is totally healthy. It is only when the body is out of balance that dis-ease symptoms start to creep up.
    � ADHD is a biochemical imbalance of the mind and body.
    � The Head of Psychiatry in Harvard states that drugs for ADHD simply mask the effects of ADHD. It does not cure ADHD. This is an important point because a cure implies never to have to take the medication. This means that once you start on medication you will have to be on it for the rest of your life i.e. you have medically acquired a dependency for a biochemical imbalance. That is like stuffing all your rubbish (problematic behaviors) into a closet (medication) where no one can see it. But if you continue to stuff more rubbish into that closet, one day you will not have enough space and need to do one of two things. You either empty the rubbish (the natural conclusion) or you get a bigger closet (i.e. change to stronger medication to control the symptoms). The choice is obvious but sometimes when you don't have the necessary tools to deal with ADHD you tend to think the bigger closet is the only option.
    � ADHD children are super sensitive to the emotions around them. Often they pick up emotional cues from their parents without realizing. Many parents come home frustrated or annoyed from work, the child with ADHD picks this up and starts to 'cause trouble' by becoming restless. Parents frustration increase because they just want some peace and quiet. They get angry which in turn is picked up by the child who then intensifies their activity. Things get way out of hand and some sort of punishment is handed down to the child who has no idea what just happened. The cycle repeats itself every so often.
    � Our brains are wired emotionally. Positive praise is interpreted as an analytical/thinking exercise. Negative criticism including scolding, name calling, physical punishment all go directly to the emotional brain of children with ADHD. This means in order to ensure you get your message across in the most optimal way, you need to learn how to communicate with your ADHD children the way they like to be communicated with.
    � Every negative comment requires 16 positive comments to neutralize the emotion. Save yourself the frustration and agitation by practicing positive communication.

    The list is by no means complete. In dealing with children with ADHD there are a certain set of behavioural principles to follow. I will detail these steps in the coming weeks. I'll also build on the list as you continue to learn about what appears to be a mystical disorder known as 'Children with ADHD'


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